legend of Rita

 

Just finished the test from a foreign gardening web. After the choice tests for your life habits, they would name u as one flower with accurate comments. Here is mine.

 

You Are a Snapdragon

This is definitely true, i love all my friends and hope they are all healthy happy every day.

怪不得有人爱做饭，原来一点都不难，还非常容易成功。

自从去年搬家，到现在，我做过肉片烧茄子，蒜薹炒肉，清蒸鲈鱼，蒜蓉粉丝扇贝，糖醋小排，其他家常炒菜若干。

咖喱海鲜饭（牛腩，鸡肉），茄汁局海鲜饭，乌鸡汤，柴鸡汤，鱼汤。冰糖银耳雪梨水，银耳木瓜羹。

煎锅贴，三鲜包子，香菇油菜包。第一次包包子，太成功了，特别好玩。为了纪念一下，未来一年都不打算再包了。

其实我不爱做饭，我不喜欢把厨房弄乱，我不喜欢刷碗。做了饭也不喜欢吃同样的味道了。

一个月偶尔进一次厨房，很新鲜的，从小看外婆做饭看了10多年，耳濡目染，还蛮有sense的。

鼓励生活无聊的人，可以都来试试。

 

很多人报喜不报忧，我确是过了10个月的好日子，可都懒的记录下来。 过了10。1，竟然开始噩梦连连，讲一个历史上做过的最恐怖哭醒了的噩梦。

填词人方文山对本歌词的解释

　　首先跟亲爱的网友们分享此次填写杰伦新专辑里这首「青花瓷」的创作过程。前一阵子我认识了几个鉴赏古董艺术的朋友，在与他们时而青铜、时而宋瓷、时而明清家具等横跨千年谈古论今的聊天中，触发我想用那些传世的中华艺术品来当歌名的动机。当时第一个想到的是青铜器，原本是要以殷商时期开始铸造的青铜器来做为歌名，以青铜的厚实来象徵爱情的坚真；以千年斑驳的铜锈来比喻世事的沧桑；以器皿上难解的铭文来阐述誓言的神秘。但刚开始落笔时却发现杰伦这首「青花瓷」的曲调温柔委婉、淡雅脱俗，以至於我脑海中浮现的全是烟雨江南的画面。又因当时的青铜器也同时制作成杀敌的兵器，这显得「青铜器」这三个字太过厚重笨拙，充满撕杀的硝烟味，於是尚在构思中的歌词尚未落笔便已放弃。
　　
　　后来我再选定宋朝时曾盛极一时的汝窑瓷，主要是因为它的珍稀度。因为战乱的关系，与釉料配方与烧制过程的窑变等因素，全世界现传世的汝窑珍品竟只有 70余件，堪称国之重宝，弥足珍贵。但问题又来了，因为纯正上品的汝窑，只有一种颜色，就是「天青色」，完全没有任何花俏的纹饰，而且造型简单素雅，在我看来犹如现今极简主义大师的作品，虽有一种朴素的内涵，与经久耐看的质感，但总觉得不足以形容诡谲多变，爱恨兼具的爱情。虽然最后还是没有用汝窑当歌词名，但我在收集写作资料的过程中，却因为一句「雨过天青云破处，这般颜色做将来。」的词句，触发我灵感而写下副歌的第一句「天青色等烟雨」。此话据传语出宋徽宗，因当时的汝窑专供宋皇室使用，而窑官将汝窑瓷烧制完成后，请示宋徽宗为其色定名时，徽宗御批：「雨过天青云破处，这般颜色做将来。」此后，天青色即为汝窑瓷钦定的颜色名。(此句另有一说为五代后周柴世宗所说)但后来我还是放弃用汝窑当歌名，除了因为它的特性不适用於缠绵诽侧的爱情外，汝窑的名字也稍嫌不够凄美。几经转折，最终歌名才确定用初烧於唐代至今已绵延一千多年为中国早期最具代表性的外销艺术品—「青花瓷」。
　　
　　当初当我确定了「天青色等烟雨」的歌词后，没多久就又顺手写下副歌第二句「而我在等你」，於是副歌第一行的关键词即孕育而生：「天青色等烟雨，而我在等你」。因我歌词里所描述的天青色，是无法自己出现的，它必须耐心的等待一场不知何时会降临的雨，才能够在积云散去的朗朗晴空以天青的颜色出现。因为雨过天晴后才会出现天青色，先降雨才能有天青，但我倒过来说，想看到天青色唯有先等待下雨。还有，之所以用「烟雨」，而不用「下雨」，则纯粹是因为烟雨的意境比较美。而我用「天青色等烟雨」此句来对仗较为白话的一句「而我在等你」，一连用了二个“等”字，是为来强调爱情里最无力的无奈就是「等待」。换个散文式的说法就是：「那天气的变幻莫测，那里是我们平凡人所能掌握的呢？想看到纯净被雨洗涤过的天青色，就只能耐心的等待骤雨自然的停，就如同我也只能被动而安静的等待著不知何时才会出现的你。」
　　这首青花瓷里还出现「芭蕉」这个歌词里较不常出现的植物，实在是因为个人对「芭蕉」这款植物的莫名喜爱，情有独钟。就像椰子树会让人联想南台湾，棕榈树等同於热情的海滩，仙人掌的场景则理所当然在沙漠一样，不知怎地，对於「芭蕉」我就自然而然的会联想起宋词中烟雨江南里的苏州林园。如李煜的长相思里就有「…秋风多，雨相和，帘外芭蕉三两棵，夜长人奈何。」其实你只要仔细观察宋词里常出现的植物，「芭蕉」出现的频率还颇高。另外日本著名的俳句诗人松尾芭蕉，也是取芭蕉为自己的别名，这又让芭蕉这植树增添些文人气质。
　　
　　还有顺带一提的是“惹”这个字在歌词中的用法，是我从六祖慧能那句著名的揭语：「菩提本无树，明镜亦非台；本来无一物，何处惹尘埃」中，得到的体会。因为「何处惹尘埃」其实也可写成「何处“沾”尘埃」，或「何处“染”尘埃」，但因为沾与染的语意都没有“惹”来的强烈，沾与染只是一种与他物接触的用词，但“惹”字却有不请自来的招惹之意，主动性很强，比较具侵略与戏剧性。也因此，我用「门环惹铜绿」，而不用「门环染铜绿」；还有另一句歌词我也是用「而我路过那江南小镇“惹了”你」，也不用「而我路过那江南小镇“遇见”你」是同样的道理。其实在「南拳妈妈」的《花恋蝶》中我就已经用了“惹”这个字，在第一段歌词里「幽幽岁月、浮生来回、屏风惹夕阳斜..」，我用「屏风“惹”夕阳斜」来表示夕阳西下时因屏风的阻挡斜射进屋内的光线，而不用「屏风“遮”夕阳斜」。
　　
　　最后，关於「芭蕉惹骤雨门环惹铜绿」的词意，在此容我再累字赘语的解释一下；一场大雨后满园的翠绿，空气里充满湿润的水气，芭蕉叶上滚动著晶莹的雨滴，此时此景，最是诗意；还有那历经风霜风吹雨打后，依旧镶嵌在门板上只是多了些锈蚀斑驳的铜环，最富古意。我先用「芭蕉惹骤雨门环惹铜绿」这段文言词句以景入情，然后再承接较为白话的下一段「而我路过那江南小镇惹了你」以为对仗。因为芭蕉与门环都是静态的实物，只能被动的等骤雨，等岁月侵蚀后慢慢氧化的铜绿；但人称代名词的“我”却跟芭蕉与门环不一样，因为“我”是可以自由移动的，於是我偶然间经过江南小镇邂逅“惹了”你，并不是被动的等你了，而是主动的去认识你。所以虽然同样都是用动词的 “惹”，但其主动与被动性却迥然不同，而且在这段词里我一连用了三个“惹”字，字义相同，用法却不同，饶富趣味。总之这首歌写的很辛苦，但也很有成就感。

顶级猎头的9个特征

 

I recently led a Tele-Seminar entitled, “How to Produce Big Results in a 4 ½ day Work week” and as part of the format, I conducted an interview with a friend of mine who had billed $1 million as a solo recruiter. During the session, he allowed me to grill him about specifics on how he used his time and controlled his focus in order to produce such big numbers. Incidentally, he billed this amount at a time when his average placement fee was just $7,000. Here are some highlights from our dialogue:

 

You must have a burning desire（你必须有强烈的欲望）: If you want to be a big biller you must have a burning desire to do what it takes to get there. If you’re lukewarm about your goals you can forget hitting those big numbers. This level of success starts with a passion for what you’re doing.

 

You need to be clear on the “why” or benefit of being a big biller（你非常清楚为什么你要成为一个顶级猎头或者说成为顶级猎头的好处）: If you become a big biller but lose your marriage and health in the process then you’ve gained nothing but a shallow ego trip. Here are some examples of a clear “why”:

I want to pay off my house in the next 3 years so I can have more freedom

I want to take 4 weeks a year to travel around the world

I want to sponsor 20 hungry children per month

 

See yourself as already there（把你自己想像成你已经成为顶级猎头）: My friend spent some time everyday reviewing his goals- both personal and professional. Here’s a personal example of how to do this; my wife and I recently set a goal to pay off our house by my 40 th birthday (4 ½ years away). In order to make it fun, I set up a specific reward which is that we’ll spend 2 weeks at the Blue Parrot Inn in Playa Del Carmen Mexico staying in the penthouse suite with a rooftop balcony. I printed off a photo of this exact balcony from the internet and put it in a gold frame in our bathroom. Everyday that I see this photo I picture myself sitting on the balcony with an expensive maduro cigar in one hand and a dark beer in the other, feeling totally affluent and pleased that the house is now paid off. In my mind, I’m already there, it’s already happening.

 

Be “ruthless” about who you will work with（“无情直接“地对待和你一起工作的人） : Every big biller that I know has clear guidelines regarding who they will and will not work with. They are able to communicate this with both clients and candidates and are often very direct in regards to expectations and requirements. Bottom line; you must respect your time and only work with people who do the same in order to hit high numbers.

 

Work in blocks（在整段的时间内工作）: You’ve heard this before I’m sure but this is another common denominator in top producers. My friend said that he did not answer his phone- at all- during outgoing calling blocks. You must be able to separate execution from reacting if you want to excel.

 

Plan meticulously （仔细的计划）: Again, you’ve heard it before but it’s a must. My friend used legal pads, index cards and a simple ACT database the year he billed $1 million- but he planned each and every call in advance.

 

Track your numbers like a mathematician（像数学家一样追踪你的数据）: Boring? Maybe, but it’s another hallmark of high production. Enough said.

 

Create systems for everything（为所有事情创造系统）: My rule is if you have to do something 3 or more times in a month, you should have it documented. Don’t repeat things from scratch that you could have systematized.

 

Neglect the administrivia（忽略行政上的琐事）: Learn to say “no”, delegate and automate. From a certain point of view, there are really only 2 categories in your work: revenue generating activities- and everything else. You've probably heard of the 80/20 rule which says that 80% of a typical salespersons success comes from 20% of his or her activities. One of the characteristics that big billers have in common is that they consistently focus on the 20% and virtually nothing else.

More often than not when we are trying to decide what to focus on during the day we are actually choosing between a wide variety of tasks that could all be classified as a “good” use of our time. Big billers have a finely tuned ability to gravitate toward the best activities while allowing many good, but less important, activities to go undone.

 

Well, there you have it. I assume this is a lot of information that you’ve heard before- and that’s the deceptive part. Because you’ve heard it before, it sounds trivial. We all want a new, shiny magic bullet. However, it’s the execution of these ideas that separates mediocre production from exceptional production.If you’re fat and you ask my advice on how to lose weight, I’ll say, “eat less and run for 30 minutes a day”. You may have heard it before, but if you really did it everyday, you’d lose the weight. Same thing goes in terms of increasing your skill and production as a recruiter. It really is all about mastery of some basic things that you’re already doing.

        夜里三点，我和呢喃还在神聊，说了一个晚上，最后呢喃对我说：“我知道其实说了这么多，你都明白，可是你该怎么样还怎么样，你不会去改变。”我认同，因为我就是这样。  “其实，我们都病了，但是你要记住我的话，一切都会慢慢好起来，你要期待你的灵光乍现，到时候你都会想明白。现在能做的就是要努力，要努力不去放弃。”

       一段时间以来都比较down,被指责说，怎么就不能cheerup起来。喜欢美食的我竟然一个多月食欲不佳，以为是胃炎反复发作，以为是北京的神经病天气。周期性嗜睡或是失眠，每天只睡4-5个小时，白天还是很精神的，而且持续几个星期。工作状态不好，我纳闷，我不是休假旅游了么，当然去了两天就大病，她们说，拉了那么长时间的弦，突然放松肯定会大病。还有就是找不到喜欢的事情，对以前喜欢的事情也提不起兴趣，down极点，时而狂躁，时而极度平静。呢喃说我说是压抑下的平静，而我把这一切也归因于，我找不到精神支柱。

        我一直觉得我是一个well controlled的人，能控制并调节自己的情绪。其实我错了，我的调节方法通常都是放弃，呢喃说得很经典的话，放弃很容易，但是守住太难了。我不喜欢争取看似遥远的东西，放弃是一种收获 是我一直以来安慰自己的座右铭。但是我还是很累，不得不承认，疲惫到不是休息能解决的问题。

        呢喃说，其实她羡慕我，很多方面，我们每个人都有自己很明显的优势，那我们还有什么理由不幸福？ 因为我们看得多了，想得多了，所以放不下了，说欠抽也好，发疯也好，我都承认，可是我改变不了自己。

 

        其实我会be positive，我会找最好的朋友ninie说说话，不管我们聊什么，闲谈也能感觉到大家互相关心很温暖；我会和呢喃相依为命的在北京好好生活，一起找点什么事情把生活的重心转移到回归生活本身，而不是其他。能做的还有什么？吃点黑巧克力调节血糖，or吃些B1调节睡眠？

 

        如果你每天一睁开眼睛就觉得即将到来的一天是那么黑暗，而每天夜里都觉得因为过了这一天而或累，或亢奋，或抑郁得睡不着，那你就会感觉到这种疲惫和恐惧，可能和现在的我一样~